Likeability: “Mr. Enchantment” does it again:
writes charmingly about ‘Likeability’, probably the primary element in getting, and keeping engagement in both social networking and life in general.
I particularly like and agree with his main idea that your likeability comes not so much from you jumping through hoops to impress others, but with the attitude you have towards others. In this article he describes a few things to consider when dealing with people, such as:
- People are not binary
- Everyone is better than you at something
- People are more similar than they are different
- People deserve a break
- We all die equal
To these great points I would only add two more, that I learned in my training as Coach and have saved me many a conflict:
1. Assume the best intentions too often it’s easy to get carried away in a discussion and react to something we think the other person meant. Assume that others are well meaning, and respond accordingly, if they aren’t you can be sure they’ll let you know and you can escalate (or not).
2. People have ‘good’ reasons for what they do very few people get up in the morning intending to act like assholes (term used by Bob Sutton!). They usually have good reasons for doing and saying what they do (from their point of view). So, if something seems strange or provocative, asking “why”
can often clear things up.
So, off with you: be likeable
btw: this attitude is a good part of what I mean by tread lightly